“Take time to think before you act.”
When you find yourself getting angry or resentful toward your partner, it’s natural to start blaming. First, you yell; then the argument escalates into damaging accusations.
Be aware that when you do this, it only perpetuates more hurt and anger. To avoid painful words, stop and think about how you feel and why. This will dissolve the negative energy, right away, and help you move to a place where you can focus on what is most important.
After you’re clear about how you feel, focus on your needs. Ask yourself what you need to feel better about the situation. It may be as simple as a phone call, if your partner is running late, or a pocket organizer that helps your partner recall important dates.
Next time anger strikes, take a moment to focus on your feelings and needs. Share them in a non-threatening way, to replace hurt and anger with happiness.
©Jane Powell – Meditations for Women
Today’s Affirmation: I take time to think before I act.